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Demontestament
11-06-2006, 11:32 AM
http://www.cnn.com/2006/LAW/11/03/online.rape.ap/index.html

PHILDELPHIA, Pennsylvania (AP) -- He was an online dater's dream: Tall, clean-cut, with a fashionable address and a taste for upscale bars and restaurants.

He said he was a doctor, an astronaut, a spy -- though he was really an on-and-off nursing student. With woman after woman, he would slip something in their drinks and then rape them, police say.

Jeffrey J. Marsalis, 33, of Philadelphia, is facing trial on nine rape counts involving eight women, while a 10th charge is pending in Sun Valley, Idaho. He met most of the victims here through a popular online dating site, authorities said. (Watch what happened that last time he was charged with raping his dates -- 1:56)

In court this week during Marsalis' preliminary hearing, the women told strikingly similar stories of meeting the smooth-talking Marsalis between 2003 and 2005, then feeling unusually intoxicated after returning from the bathroom or letting him buy a round from the bar.

They said they woke up hours later, back at his apartment -- groggy, sometimes undressed -- after an apparent sexual encounter or even in the middle of intercourse.

"It was like waking up from surgery," one woman said. "My body was there, and I could see what was going on around me, but I couldn't move."

Marsalis' lawyer says the women simply regret being duped about his accomplishments and dumped after consensual sex.

"Some of this may be buyer's remorse," defense lawyer Kathleen E. Martin said Thursday.

None of the Philadelphia victims -- most of them well-educated professionals -- went to police or a hospital afterward, Martin pointed out. Instead, police sought the women out after they seized Marsalis' computer as part of an earlier case.

Marsalis was acquitted of three similar assaults at a trial in Philadelphia in January. Before he could leave the courtroom, however, he was handcuffed by police and accused of the new charges. A judge later denied bail.

One of the women who testified this week said Marsalis posed as a doctor. When he visited her at a hospital he had a stethoscope around his neck and checked her chart, she said.

"This guy is not shy. He's confident. He's plotting," said Capt. John Darby, head of the city's sex crimes unit. "He showed IDs to a lot of these women supporting the various roles, positions that he seemingly held. He really put on a hell of a show."

Prosecutors say it's difficult to prove the use of date-rape drugs, because they metabolize before victims are alert enough to get a drug screen. A jury could still find him guilty of rape if it decides the women were too impaired to consent to sex.

The woman in the Idaho case says she was raped in October 2005. She went to the hospital the next day. There is a gag order in the case, but Sun Valley police said in a news release that she experienced symptoms "consistent with having ingested a date-rape-type drug."

Marsalis met most of the women through Match.com. The company said Thursday that it cannot monitor what goes on once their clients move from online communication to the real world.

Honestly I never really got the point of an online dating site, whats the point of talking to someone online and then flying hundreds of miles out to see them to only find out what you should already know, they are not what they sounded like at all. People put down teens all the time when they talk to people online saying it is dangerous and they can be lured out and raped by some sicko. But then they go and do the exact same thing, I say shut down all those online dating sites and make people meet someone on their own again. Hopefully this man is found guilty and is killed before he can even make it to his cell.

KN
11-06-2006, 11:35 AM
Jeez, if you're going to do online dating, at least do it through some Internet community. At least I know what most of you guys look like.

Grahamr
11-06-2006, 11:38 AM
I concur with the above post.

<Deleted by Grahamr because he can edit edits even if their edited by a mod> - Theory?

Haha pwned!-Grahamr

Theory?
11-06-2006, 11:40 AM
I conquer the above post.

CONQUER'D!!! - Toll

Silver_Derstin
11-06-2006, 12:40 PM
Since I am one of those who is sorta online dating, I guess it shows a warning to people that not all stories end well.

kurisu7885
11-06-2006, 02:35 PM
As was said before, I'm in an online relationship, but unlike some I am cautious, and at least honest.

Grahamr
11-06-2006, 04:30 PM
When i hang out with my friends on Wow, we can be preety good friends. But i normally don't ask about where they live, Etc. And they don't normally ask me.

nightwng2000
11-06-2006, 05:21 PM
Of course, there's always www.dontdatehimgirl.com (http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com) .
You know, the site where women can make whatever claim they want, even anonymously, about any man, giving out their personal information, and even make false claims without any legal consequences.

Saw it on Good Morning America and noted just how bigoted and unethical such a site was. Supposedly, female members can make any claim they want to and until someone complains, it's totally legal. Basically boils down to "if you're not smart enough to make sure your name and personal info is there, tough, live with it, it's our right to make whatever claim we want to because we are the real victims of everything and you're expendable".

They claim to have a terms of service that they follow, but based on the number of anonymous posts, it's not difficult to believe that it is ignored in favor of those making the claims.

Thefremen
11-06-2006, 06:24 PM
Well, in the interest of full disclosure I met my wife and the mother of my child on #manila.

Anyways, I think people should be careful about who they date regardless of where they meet them, whether it be online, in a bar, or on the Dr. Phil show. This goes doubly for people on 4chan. Those ****ers cannot be trusted, especially Anonymous.

Sprngpilot
11-06-2006, 07:27 PM
This could have easily been done in the "real" world at bars or clubs. Why blame the internet? Unfortunately there are scumbag rapists both online and off.

KN
11-06-2006, 07:28 PM
This goes doubly for people on 4chan. Those ****ers cannot be trusted, especially Anonymous.

He does not forgive.

John
11-06-2006, 07:55 PM
Jeez, if you're going to do online dating, at least do it through some Internet community. At least I know what most of you guys look like.

Not me! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Anywho, looks like dating websites'll be the new MySpace for 07!

WE MUST PROTECT KIDS FROM ACCESSING THESE ONLINE SEX SITES!

nightwng2000
11-06-2006, 08:03 PM
Not me! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Anywho, looks like dating websites'll be the new MySpace for 07!

WE MUST PROTECT KIDS FROM ACCESSING THESE ONLINE SEX SITES!

Just as long as they keep their hands off my freeones.

Grahamr
11-06-2006, 08:26 PM
I concur with the above post.

<Deleted by Grahamr because he can edit edits even if their edited by a mod> - Theory?

Until I pwn you. -Toll

I just wanted to bring this to theory?s attension.

ZippyDSMlee
11-06-2006, 08:52 PM
http://www.cnn.com/2006/LAW/11/03/online.rape.ap/index.html



Honestly I never really got the point of an online dating site, whats the point of talking to someone online and then flying hundreds of miles out to see them to only find out what you should already know, they are not what they sounded like at all. People put down teens all the time when they talk to people online saying it is dangerous and they can be lured out and raped by some sicko. But then they go and do the exact same thing, I say shut down all those online dating sites and make people meet someone on their own again. Hopefully this man is found guilty and is killed before he can even make it to his cell.

Dosent say what dateign site and if it was one of thos 30+ a month ones WTF your payign them to screen sex offenders and stupid,ugly,poor people out 0-o

PyroHazard
11-07-2006, 12:11 AM
Of course, there's always www.dontdatehimgirl.com (http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com) .
You know, the site where women can make whatever claim they want, even anonymously, about any man, giving out their personal information, and even make false claims without any legal consequences.


I wonder if they sell dykeboots to pay off their server costs.

Date-rapers are just as bad. It's pretty slimy of someone to drug someone's drink regardless of gender. Personally, I hope this guy's dick gets shanked thus rendering it unuseable.

Sorry, I just have a hard-on (heh) for divine justice in the most sadistic degree. :cool:

Thefremen
11-07-2006, 04:34 AM
I wonder if they sell dykeboots to pay off their server costs.

Date-rapers are just as bad. It's pretty slimy of someone to drug someone's drink regardless of gender. Personally, I hope this guy's dick gets shanked thus rendering it unuseable.

Sorry, I just have a hard-on (heh) for divine justice in the most sadistic degree. :cool:

I just remembered that I wanted to register "bitchbetrippin.com" so men can have a fair shake against dontdatehimgirl.com :).